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a) Developing a personal style
One of the first things you will want to do is develop a style. My "character" is very girl next door; submissive and quirky, sweet, adorable, and flushed/ easily embarrassed by sexual talk. It's not far from who I am in real life, so it stays fairly simple.
The idea of topping makes me want to vomit in real life, but my character doesn't mind it. In fact, she loves it. It took me a long time to be able to do dom and top shows, but there are lots of men who want that, so it's not something you want to miss capitalizing on if you can learn to stomach it for a few sessions a night.
At the end of the day, it's all an elaborate act. I am not myself when camming. Things that trigger and hurt me in real life have ceased to hurt and trigger me during shows. A lot changes once you learn to step into a character entirely. This is something that requires practice. I would highly recommend starting out with just being yourself. Let things naturally progress and evolve.
If you sense a john is craving a more dominant partner, feel free to lean into that. If they make hints at certain secret fetishes and desires--coax those thoughts out of them. They will forget they are paying you by the minute if you manage to completely immerse them in their fantasy. The more open minded you are in this world, the more successful you will be.
b) Talk for those coins
My personal style also includes a great deal of dirty talk during my shows. I have found this to be the most important skill in my arsenal.
With words, you can walk a client through a fetish situation. You can create whole fantasies in their head to imagine while they watch you riding your dildo or fingering yourself. Sometimes this involves roleplay and pretending that you are in a particular situation, ie--You were just picked up at the bar but he doesn't know that you have a dick. Or maybe he is your dad’s best friend who was secretly sent to check in on you while your parents were away on vacation. Surprise! He caught you drinking, you bad, BAD girl.
There are no limits to what you can accomplish in a highly verbal show. Aim to entertain yourself--not your john. If you’re loving it, they will be too.
c) Topping digitally
My top shows are entirely verbal. I have done so many of these at this point that I have the script memorized. it goes something like this once they have let on that they wish to be topped:
"Oh so you like being bent over and fucked really good don't you. Mmm. That makes your mistress very happy. But before I'm going to go inside you, I want you to show me how good of a boy you can be. Why don't you get on your knees for me? Can you do that? Good boy. Now I want you to bend over just like this and put your face in my lap. That's right; that's it. Press your face right up against my panties. Can you feel my girlcock starting to swell down there? You like that don't you. I bet it makes you want..."
It kind of just goes on from there. Try to remain in tune with what EXACTLY they want in a topping situation because men are fragile and the wrong words can make them feel self conscious and leave. Some men just want to be topped but NOT dominated. Some want to be dominated but NOT feminized. Some men want to be dominated and feminized. Depending on their exact demands, my language changes. Sometimes I make them pick out a girl name and tell them what a good little sissy they are. Other times I am a more submissive, "I've never done this before, but it feels so warm inside you that I can't stop moving my hips" style top.
d) Know your fetishes
Stay in your comfort zone of course, but having a deep knowledge of the various popular fetishes that the internet has to offer and understanding what makes certain clients tick can be critical to your success. If you are able to help a client live out their most personal and deep fetishes, they will come back again and again. A lot of this is trying to get into the headspace of someone with that particular fetish. THE MORE YOU KNOW!
5) Enhance yourself with camera tricks.
When I first started camming, I did not "pass" in real life. But in perfect lighting, with a full face of heavy and well conceived makeup, and having spent quite a lot of time finding the perfect angles to present myself to the camera at, I came much closer to passability.
Start spending time learning makeup if you haven’t already!
Jeffree Star, as much as I hate him, does a great job of teaching techniques that are applicable for trans women who are struggling to pass.
Remember that on camera, in proper lighting, heavy makeup does not register anywhere near as heavy as it does in real life. This allows you to bend your look much further than you can when chatting with folks face to face.
I would recommend getting in full face and turning on a camera application that is not broadcasting before messing with your lighting setup.
Try positioning your lamp in various places in the room. Maybe drape a colorful or blanket over it to bend the color of the light. Perhaps incorporate some christmas lights and see how they impact your look. In this way, you can adjust virtually everything in your lighting setup without spending a penny on fancy stage lights.
*Don't look at this as an exact science!* Just toy with your approach until you like what you see in the camera and continually tweak as you grow and evolve as a performer. The more you play, the better you will get.
The angle of the lighting is perhaps more important than its hue and brightness. Light reaching the face from head on or a 45 degree angle reduces the appearance of the brow bone and other masculine features. No matter who you are--direct, overhead lighting is not a good look and tends to make the face appear more gaunt and masculine.
c) Camera angle
Play around with the angle of the camera and position it in such a way that it views you from your most flattering angle as a default in your lobby. If you have ever taken selfies, you will be aware of how we can tweak our overall look with angles.
The goal is to memorize your most flattering angles and postures and learn to flow through these seamlessly while avoiding the ones that are not flattering. This also extends beyond your face to the positions in which you are riding a dildo or fingering yourself.
Consider your body and its relationship to the camera at all times. Keep an image of you blown up on your monitor or dedicate a second monitor to keeping tabs on yourself at all times.
I always keep my shoulders pulled back to minimize their appearance. This also makes my breasts stand out more. Again, the goal is to flow seamlessly through a series of overly flattering angles while outright avoiding those that are not flattering. The particulars will be different for everyone.
6) Know who to pay attention to; BE KIND!
Some clients will just show up and hope to get off from chatting with you without any intention of ever giving you a penny. We call these “time-wasters.”
Be polite to them, but learn to identify them from their behavior. Feed the right wolves. Flirt heavily with big tippers. When a regular shows up in your room, act as if you have missed them terribly. Allow yourself to build friendships with clients, but always maintain boundaries. Whatever you do, keep engaging. Stay moving and flirting. Have funny stories prepared to tell them. Make up elaborate stories of larger than life sexual exploits. Anything to keep them interested.
Lots of girls play loud music and ignore their room until someone takes them to a show or tips. This is a huge mistake in my opinion, being that a large part of this job is learning to build “relationships” with your clients. It takes practice and a strong stomach, but you will get the hang of it. Some of them I even consider almost friends.
7) Be patient!
Be patient with it. You first have to grow a client base, and that isn't something that always happens overnight. My first night ever camming I made 70 bucks in 3 or 4 hours. I just kept at it until I got to where I was when I first made the switch to escorting--making 175 an hour.
It took a lot of time, energy, and very real effort to get to that point, but with persistence, you can do it too.
8) HAVE FUN!
This part can be hard. Especially at first. But try to have fun with it. I almost always have porn up on one of my monitors or my cell phone, muted, and I fantasize about the things that truly get me off in real life during my shows.
I can be doing a domme session with a john and talking him through it step by step, "I need you to get on your knees for me now, you little slut. Show your mistress how you like to play with that pretty little pink boi-pussy..." and meanwhile in my head I am making out with Beyonce or visualizing my personal kinky fantasies.
It helps a lot if you can bring your own fantasies into the mix. You can always test the water by teasing that you have a secret fantasy that you're not sure if anyone would like. This will garner interest. Next thing you know you're acting it out on your own terms and getting paid to do so.
There's a lot of nuance as to how you can run your show. Just experiment and see what works for you to create the most positive and lucrative experience possible. Best of luck out their ladies and good luck making it through the storm.
May you all be surged for the gods <3